Rabbi Doniel Staum, LMSW
Rabbi, Kehillat New Hempstead
Rebbe/Guidance Counselor – ASHAR
Principal – Ohr Naftoli- New Windsor
STAM
TORAH
TORAH
PARSHIOS
MATOS-MASEI 5775
MATOS-MASEI 5775
“PRIORITIES!”
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John D Rockefeller, founder of Standard Oil, gave a
groundskeeper a five dollar holiday bonus. Then, when the man took the holiday
off to spend it with his family, Rockefeller docked the five dollars from the
man’s pay.
John D Rockefeller, founder of Standard Oil, gave a
groundskeeper a five dollar holiday bonus. Then, when the man took the holiday
off to spend it with his family, Rockefeller docked the five dollars from the
man’s pay.
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Mr. Walt Disney would time his employees’ trips to the candy
and sodas machines during work and detract it from their wages.
Mr. Walt Disney would time his employees’ trips to the candy
and sodas machines during work and detract it from their wages.
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Ty Cobb, the famous baseball player, was also an early
investor in Coca-Cola stock. He would collect bars of soap from locker rooms
and hotel shower rooms, and would send them back to hisGeorgia farm.
Ty Cobb, the famous baseball player, was also an early
investor in Coca-Cola stock. He would collect bars of soap from locker rooms
and hotel shower rooms, and would send them back to his
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Clark Gable, noted movie star, would often argue with his
grocer about the price of jelly beans.
Clark Gable, noted movie star, would often argue with his
grocer about the price of jelly beans.
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At the time of his death, the affluent and erratic Howard
Hughes left behind 1.56 billion dollars. Shortly before his death, he is
purported to have stated that, “During the last thirty years I have never woken
up happy!”
At the time of his death, the affluent and erratic Howard
Hughes left behind 1.56 billion dollars. Shortly before his death, he is
purported to have stated that, “During the last thirty years I have never woken
up happy!”
“How you make your living is very
different from how you make your life!”
different from how you make your life!”
The Torah relates that the tribes of
Reuven and Gad approached Moshe and requested the lands of trans-Jordan as
their inheritance, and not cross into the land proper[1].
“The children of Reuven and the children of Gad had abundant livestock – very
great. They saw theland of Yazer and the land of Gilead ,
and behold! The place was a place for livestock.[2]”
At first Moshe was extremely chagrined by their request. He feared their
request would cause the rest of the nation to become disheartened and they would
lose their zeal for the imminent battles against the Canaanites.
Reuven and Gad approached Moshe and requested the lands of trans-Jordan as
their inheritance, and not cross into the land proper[1].
“The children of Reuven and the children of Gad had abundant livestock – very
great. They saw the
and behold! The place was a place for livestock.[2]”
At first Moshe was extremely chagrined by their request. He feared their
request would cause the rest of the nation to become disheartened and they would
lose their zeal for the imminent battles against the Canaanites.
The tribes of Reuven and Gad countered that
Moshe had misunderstood their request. They were not spurning the Land, and had
no intention of shirking their responsibility to fight alongside their
brethren. They only wanted to receive those abundant lands as their portion.
Moshe had misunderstood their request. They were not spurning the Land, and had
no intention of shirking their responsibility to fight alongside their
brethren. They only wanted to receive those abundant lands as their portion.
Rashi notes that when the tribes of Gad and
Reuven clarified and reiterated their request they made a tragic error. “They
approached him and said, ‘Pens for the flock shall we build here for our
livestock and cities for our small children’.” The wording they used revealed a
deep shortcoming in their priorities. They first mentioned their intent to
build pens for their livestock before mentioning that they would construct
homes for their families. In other words, they mentioned their money before
their children!
Reuven clarified and reiterated their request they made a tragic error. “They
approached him and said, ‘Pens for the flock shall we build here for our
livestock and cities for our small children’.” The wording they used revealed a
deep shortcoming in their priorities. They first mentioned their intent to
build pens for their livestock before mentioning that they would construct
homes for their families. In other words, they mentioned their money before
their children!
Moshe immediately perceived their mistaken
priorities and, when he mentioned his reluctant acquiescence to their request
he replied[3],
“Build for yourselves cities for your small children and pens for your flock;”
first for your children and only then for your possessions.
priorities and, when he mentioned his reluctant acquiescence to their request
he replied[3],
“Build for yourselves cities for your small children and pens for your flock;”
first for your children and only then for your possessions.
When a male baby who is his mother’s first
conception becomes one month old, his father must redeem him by giving five
silver shekels to a kohain. The ceremony, known as Pidyon Haben, is a joyous
occasion and is followed by a festive meal.
conception becomes one month old, his father must redeem him by giving five
silver shekels to a kohain. The ceremony, known as Pidyon Haben, is a joyous
occasion and is followed by a festive meal.
The ceremony begins with the father
declaring that the baby is his firstborn son and that he is obligated to redeem
him. The Kohain then asks, “Which do you prefer: to give away your firstborn
son, who is the first issue of his mother’s womb, or do you prefer to redeem
him for five shekels as you are required to do by the Torah?” The father replies:
“I wish to redeem my son. I present you with the cost of his redemption as I am
required to do by the Torah.”
declaring that the baby is his firstborn son and that he is obligated to redeem
him. The Kohain then asks, “Which do you prefer: to give away your firstborn
son, who is the first issue of his mother’s womb, or do you prefer to redeem
him for five shekels as you are required to do by the Torah?” The father replies:
“I wish to redeem my son. I present you with the cost of his redemption as I am
required to do by the Torah.”
The whole conversation seems ludicrous. Why
does the Koahin even bother to ask what the father would rather do? Is there
any person so callous as to even entertain the notion of not redeeming his son
to save some money? Why does the father not simply declare that he wishes to
redeem his son as instructed by the Torah?
does the Koahin even bother to ask what the father would rather do? Is there
any person so callous as to even entertain the notion of not redeeming his son
to save some money? Why does the father not simply declare that he wishes to
redeem his son as instructed by the Torah?
The answer is that the new baby has
transformed a young man into a father. When a person becomes a father for the
first time he often pledges in his mind that he will be the greatest father for
his child. He will read to his child, sing to his child, play ball with his
child, and learn with his child.
transformed a young man into a father. When a person becomes a father for the
first time he often pledges in his mind that he will be the greatest father for
his child. He will read to his child, sing to his child, play ball with his
child, and learn with his child.
Sadly enough, many of those grand plans
never come to fruition. The hassles and demands of life set in and those
idyllic pledges are placed on the back-burner. After-all, business is business
and one cannot live without money and the wherewithal to provide for his
family. It is not that spending time with one’s son is no longer de rigueur;
it’s just that the pressure of paying bills and financial obligations seem more
immediately pressing.
never come to fruition. The hassles and demands of life set in and those
idyllic pledges are placed on the back-burner. After-all, business is business
and one cannot live without money and the wherewithal to provide for his
family. It is not that spending time with one’s son is no longer de rigueur;
it’s just that the pressure of paying bills and financial obligations seem more
immediately pressing.
If one would ask any logical person whether
money or family is more important, we can be certain that he would hastily
answer that there is nothing more valuable than the time one spends with his
family. Yet[4]פוק חזי”
– go out and see” what occurs on a daily basis. People sell out their progeny,
their most valuable treasures in the world, for transient nebulous commodities
that are ultimately left behind.
money or family is more important, we can be certain that he would hastily
answer that there is nothing more valuable than the time one spends with his
family. Yet[4]פוק חזי”
– go out and see” what occurs on a daily basis. People sell out their progeny,
their most valuable treasures in the world, for transient nebulous commodities
that are ultimately left behind.
Therefore, at his
child’s ‘redemption’ the father must verbalize his values. It is not enough
that he knows it to be true, at this critical juncture when he has just entered
fatherhood he must express it outright for one and all to hear. The Koahin asks
him what he would rather- money or child, and the father emphatically announces
that he wishes to redeem his son.
child’s ‘redemption’ the father must verbalize his values. It is not enough
that he knows it to be true, at this critical juncture when he has just entered
fatherhood he must express it outright for one and all to hear. The Koahin asks
him what he would rather- money or child, and the father emphatically announces
that he wishes to redeem his son.
Those words must perpetually
remain with the father. He must never forget his value system; family must
always be prioritized, and money must always be a distant second.
remain with the father. He must never forget his value system; family must
always be prioritized, and money must always be a distant second.
After Avrohom Avinu
vanquished the four mighty armies led by Nimrod in order to save his captured
nephew Lot, the king ofSodom
made a proposition to Avrohom: “[5]Give
me the people, and take the possessions for yourself.” Avrohom immediately replied that he would not
take a thing. “I lift my hand to Hashem, G-d, the Most High, Maker of heaven
and earth, if so much as a thread to a shoe-strap… So you shall not say, ‘It is
I who made Avrom[6]
rich’.”
vanquished the four mighty armies led by Nimrod in order to save his captured
nephew Lot, the king of
made a proposition to Avrohom: “[5]Give
me the people, and take the possessions for yourself.” Avrohom immediately replied that he would not
take a thing. “I lift my hand to Hashem, G-d, the Most High, Maker of heaven
and earth, if so much as a thread to a shoe-strap… So you shall not say, ‘It is
I who made Avrom[6]
rich’.”
My Rebbe, Rabbi Berel
Wein, explained that it was because of the king ofSodom ’s proposition that Avrohom refused to
accept any of the spoils which were rightfully due to him. Once the king
offered the spoils of war in exchange for the people, Avrohom refused to have
any part of those spoils. “Let it not be said that Avrohom became rich because
he sold out the people.” Avrohom was an extremely wealthy and influential
individual. But in becoming the Patriarch of Klal Yisroel he would never allow
one cent to take priority over his family or any person.
Wein, explained that it was because of the king of
accept any of the spoils which were rightfully due to him. Once the king
offered the spoils of war in exchange for the people, Avrohom refused to have
any part of those spoils. “Let it not be said that Avrohom became rich because
he sold out the people.” Avrohom was an extremely wealthy and influential
individual. But in becoming the Patriarch of Klal Yisroel he would never allow
one cent to take priority over his family or any person.
One of the greatest
messages that Avrohom espoused throughout his life was that money is worthless
when measured against human life and spirit!
messages that Avrohom espoused throughout his life was that money is worthless
when measured against human life and spirit!
This lesson is always
reiterated during the Three Weeks of mourning. A Jew must always remember his
value system and his priorities. All the money in the world will not be
sufficient to rebuild the long-awaited third eternal Bais Hamikdash. But loving
and prioritizing others, specifically our children will definitely bring us
closer!
reiterated during the Three Weeks of mourning. A Jew must always remember his
value system and his priorities. All the money in the world will not be
sufficient to rebuild the long-awaited third eternal Bais Hamikdash. But loving
and prioritizing others, specifically our children will definitely bring us
closer!
“Pens for the flock and cities for our
small children”
small children”
“Which do you prefer: your firstborn son,
or to redeem him?”
or to redeem him?”
[1] In 1948
when the UN was drawing up its partition plan for the new state ofIsrael ,
hardliners such as Menachem Begin insisted that the Jews receive the entire
country, including trans-Jordan (the modern day country ofJordan ). It was
based on the fact that the inheritance of two and a half tribes was in
trans-Jordan.
when the UN was drawing up its partition plan for the new state of
hardliners such as Menachem Begin insisted that the Jews receive the entire
country, including trans-Jordan (the modern day country of
based on the fact that the inheritance of two and a half tribes was in
trans-Jordan.
[2] 32:1
[3] 32:24
[4] in the
vernacular of the Talmud
vernacular of the Talmud
[5]
Bereishis 14:21
Bereishis 14:21
[6] At that
point, his name was still Avrom, and had not yet been changed to Avrohom.
point, his name was still Avrom, and had not yet been changed to Avrohom.