STAM
TORAH
TORAH
PARSHAS
TAZRIA/HACHODESH 5779
TAZRIA/HACHODESH 5779
“SPEECH
MATTERS”[1]
MATTERS”[1]
TED Talk delivered by
Mark Bezos[2]:
Mark Bezos[2]:
“I’m a volunteer
firefighter in Scarsdale NY. In Scarsdale, the professional firefighters are
always on duty, and they are the first responders. After they are already on
their way to the fire, the volunteers are called as well. Because we are
supplementing a highly skilled career staff, we have to get to the fire
scene pretty early to get in on any action.
firefighter in Scarsdale NY. In Scarsdale, the professional firefighters are
always on duty, and they are the first responders. After they are already on
their way to the fire, the volunteers are called as well. Because we are
supplementing a highly skilled career staff, we have to get to the fire
scene pretty early to get in on any action.
“I remember my first
call well. At around 3 am my charger went off. At first I didn’t know what it
was, and I was running around my room searching for the source of the noise,
until my wife told me it was a call about a fire.
call well. At around 3 am my charger went off. At first I didn’t know what it
was, and I was running around my room searching for the source of the noise,
until my wife told me it was a call about a fire.
“I quickly ran out to
my car and sped off. It was terrible weather that night; rain was coming down
horizontally, and visibility was terrible. I arrived at the scene, put on the
gear, as flames were shooting up from the home. The homeowner was standing next
to the Fire Chief, in her pajamas, barefoot in the rain watching her house
burn. She was very excited, screaming that her dog was still in the house.
my car and sped off. It was terrible weather that night; rain was coming down
horizontally, and visibility was terrible. I arrived at the scene, put on the
gear, as flames were shooting up from the home. The homeowner was standing next
to the Fire Chief, in her pajamas, barefoot in the rain watching her house
burn. She was very excited, screaming that her dog was still in the house.
“So, I rushed up to
the captain to receive my orders. But there was another volunteer who had
arrived moments before me. The captain asked him to go inside and get the
homeowners dog.
the captain to receive my orders. But there was another volunteer who had
arrived moments before me. The captain asked him to go inside and get the
homeowners dog.
“You do a lot of
training to become a volunteer, and you have visions of having the opportunity
to go into a fire and save someone from a burning building. Then you come back
home, and your children look at you like you’re ten feet taller, and bullet
proof.
training to become a volunteer, and you have visions of having the opportunity
to go into a fire and save someone from a burning building. Then you come back
home, and your children look at you like you’re ten feet taller, and bullet
proof.
“But that’s not what
happened.
happened.
“I must admit that at
that moment I was very jealous. The volunteer before me, some lawyer or money
manager would, for the rest of his life, get to tell people that he
went into a burning building to save a living creature, just because
he beat me by five seconds.
that moment I was very jealous. The volunteer before me, some lawyer or money
manager would, for the rest of his life, get to tell people that he
went into a burning building to save a living creature, just because
he beat me by five seconds.
“Then the captain
waved me over, and said, “Bezos, I need you to go into the house. I
need you to go upstairs, past the fire, and I need you to get this woman a
pair of shoes.”
waved me over, and said, “Bezos, I need you to go into the house. I
need you to go upstairs, past the fire, and I need you to get this woman a
pair of shoes.”
“It was not exactly
what I was hoping for, but off I went — up the stairs, down the
hall, past the ‘real’ firefighters, who were pretty much done putting out
the fire at this point, into the master bedroom to get a pair of shoes.
what I was hoping for, but off I went — up the stairs, down the
hall, past the ‘real’ firefighters, who were pretty much done putting out
the fire at this point, into the master bedroom to get a pair of shoes.
“I brought the shoes
out and handed them to the homeowner and remarked, “You might be more
comfortable if you put these on.” She didn’t even acknowledge them, still very
excited about her dog, who was now being carried out of the house by the
volunteer who beat me by a few seconds.
out and handed them to the homeowner and remarked, “You might be more
comfortable if you put these on.” She didn’t even acknowledge them, still very
excited about her dog, who was now being carried out of the house by the
volunteer who beat me by a few seconds.
“Then I headed home,
feeling like I went from hero to zero.
feeling like I went from hero to zero.
“But then a few weeks
later, the fire department received a letter from the woman whose house was on
fire. In it she effusively thanked everyone for all they had done for her, in
saving her house, property, and dog. Then she noted, that someone had even gone
into the building to get her a pair of shoes, which touched her greatly.
later, the fire department received a letter from the woman whose house was on
fire. In it she effusively thanked everyone for all they had done for her, in
saving her house, property, and dog. Then she noted, that someone had even gone
into the building to get her a pair of shoes, which touched her greatly.
“In both my vocation
at an anti-poverty group, and as a volunteer firefighter, I am
witness to acts of generosity and kindness on a monumental scale. But I’m
also witness to acts of grace and courage on an individual basis. I
learned that they all matter.
at an anti-poverty group, and as a volunteer firefighter, I am
witness to acts of generosity and kindness on a monumental scale. But I’m
also witness to acts of grace and courage on an individual basis. I
learned that they all matter.
“My message to people
who either have achieved, or are on their way to
achieving, remarkable levels of success, is to offer this
reminder: don’t wait!
who either have achieved, or are on their way to
achieving, remarkable levels of success, is to offer this
reminder: don’t wait!
“Don’t wait until you
make your first million to make a difference in somebody’s life. If
you have something to give, give it now. Serve food at a soup
kitchen. Clean up a neighborhood park. Be a mentor.
make your first million to make a difference in somebody’s life. If
you have something to give, give it now. Serve food at a soup
kitchen. Clean up a neighborhood park. Be a mentor.
“Not every day is
going to offer us a chance to save somebody’s life, but every day
offers us an opportunity to affect one.
going to offer us a chance to save somebody’s life, but every day
offers us an opportunity to affect one.
So, get in the game.
Save the shoes.”
Save the shoes.”
The mishna[3] notes
that Rosh Chodesh Nissan is one of the four “Roshei HaShanah – New Years” during
the year. Nissan is the first of the months, and on Rosh Chodesh Nissan the
cycle of months begins anew.
that Rosh Chodesh Nissan is one of the four “Roshei HaShanah – New Years” during
the year. Nissan is the first of the months, and on Rosh Chodesh Nissan the
cycle of months begins anew.
What is the nature
of this “Rosh Hashanah” and how does it contrast with the holiday we refer to
as Rosh Hashanah at the beginning of the month of Tishrei?
of this “Rosh Hashanah” and how does it contrast with the holiday we refer to
as Rosh Hashanah at the beginning of the month of Tishrei?
The New Year of
Tishrei is the day when every individual’s actions are analyzed and scrutinized
by G-d, and the of every being on the following year is determined. Therefore,
we engage in a process of introspection and repentance prior and following that
great Day of Judgement, in the hope that we will emerge meritoriously from the
painstaking judgement. Once we have analyzed our personal actions and our
behaviors during the previous year, we seek to broaden our perspective and
determine if we have properly cared for our brethren and whether we are
sufficiently unified with others. This is symbolized by the fact that when we
recite viduy (confession) it is in the public tense (e.g. “we have been
guilty, we have betrayed, etc.), and the Four Species taken on Succos
symbolize four categories of Jews. We hold them together to symbolize national
unity.
Tishrei is the day when every individual’s actions are analyzed and scrutinized
by G-d, and the of every being on the following year is determined. Therefore,
we engage in a process of introspection and repentance prior and following that
great Day of Judgement, in the hope that we will emerge meritoriously from the
painstaking judgement. Once we have analyzed our personal actions and our
behaviors during the previous year, we seek to broaden our perspective and
determine if we have properly cared for our brethren and whether we are
sufficiently unified with others. This is symbolized by the fact that when we
recite viduy (confession) it is in the public tense (e.g. “we have been
guilty, we have betrayed, etc.), and the Four Species taken on Succos
symbolize four categories of Jews. We hold them together to symbolize national
unity.
During the days of
Nissan, we employ the opposite focus. While on Tishrei our focus is from inside
outward, during the days of Nissan our focus is from the outside inward.
Nissan, we employ the opposite focus. While on Tishrei our focus is from inside
outward, during the days of Nissan our focus is from the outside inward.
The pasuk says, “Or
has any god ever miraculously come to take for himself a nation from amidst
another nation, with challenges, with signs, and with wonders, and with war,
and with a strong hand, and with an outstretched arm, and with greatly awesome
deeds, such as everything that Hashem, your G-d, did for you in Egypt, before
your eyes?”[4]
The Jews’ state in Egypt was analogous to a fetus within its mother’s womb,
which lacks any external identifiable features and is completely reliant on its
mother for sustenance and life.[5] The
exodus was the national birth and genesis of the Jewish people. That was the
moment when we became a people, whose destiny would shape and drive that of all
of humankind.
has any god ever miraculously come to take for himself a nation from amidst
another nation, with challenges, with signs, and with wonders, and with war,
and with a strong hand, and with an outstretched arm, and with greatly awesome
deeds, such as everything that Hashem, your G-d, did for you in Egypt, before
your eyes?”[4]
The Jews’ state in Egypt was analogous to a fetus within its mother’s womb,
which lacks any external identifiable features and is completely reliant on its
mother for sustenance and life.[5] The
exodus was the national birth and genesis of the Jewish people. That was the
moment when we became a people, whose destiny would shape and drive that of all
of humankind.
Therefore, the
month of Nissan warrants a focus on our national vitality, and how each
individual is associating himself and contributing to public needs and growth.
month of Nissan warrants a focus on our national vitality, and how each
individual is associating himself and contributing to public needs and growth.
All of the laws of
Korbon Pesach contain this focus. The lamb/goat used for the Korbon Pesach was
brought by families and neighbors. They had to pre-register and it had to be
eaten together in jovial celebration.
Korbon Pesach contain this focus. The lamb/goat used for the Korbon Pesach was
brought by families and neighbors. They had to pre-register and it had to be
eaten together in jovial celebration.
The laws of the
Korbon Pesach were instructed to Moshe on Rosh Chodesh Nissan 2448, just two
weeks prior to the exodus. G-d prefaced the instruction about the Korbon Pesach
by stating: “This month shall be for you, the first of the months.”[6] It
was to be a new beginning and the nation needed to be aware of the incredible
transformation that was about to take place. The preparation entailed unifying
in defiantly offering the god of their former captors and assertively serving
G-d with joy.
Korbon Pesach were instructed to Moshe on Rosh Chodesh Nissan 2448, just two
weeks prior to the exodus. G-d prefaced the instruction about the Korbon Pesach
by stating: “This month shall be for you, the first of the months.”[6] It
was to be a new beginning and the nation needed to be aware of the incredible
transformation that was about to take place. The preparation entailed unifying
in defiantly offering the god of their former captors and assertively serving
G-d with joy.
The Rosh Hashanah
of Nissan is a time for us to contemplate whether we have been faithful members
of our people, and whether we have sufficiently invested enough in the
spiritual, physical, emotional and psychological welfare of our brethren. Do we
think about others and seek to improve their lives, and are not only focused on
our own personal growth and religious commitments? The main focus is on our
national identity and whether we as individuals are doing our part in that
regard.
of Nissan is a time for us to contemplate whether we have been faithful members
of our people, and whether we have sufficiently invested enough in the
spiritual, physical, emotional and psychological welfare of our brethren. Do we
think about others and seek to improve their lives, and are not only focused on
our own personal growth and religious commitments? The main focus is on our
national identity and whether we as individuals are doing our part in that
regard.
Parshas Tazria
contains the laws of tzara’as which afflicted a person primarily for violating
the sin of loshon hora.
contains the laws of tzara’as which afflicted a person primarily for violating
the sin of loshon hora.
The poignant
underlying message to be gleaned from the Torah’s warnings about tzara’as is
that what we say matters! If a vagabond mulling in the dirt says something
against the king, no one pays him any attention. However, if a high-ranking
minister maligns the king that will have far more severe consequences, because
what he says carries far more weight. The very fact that any individual would
be afflicted with tzara’as even for a comment said in private, demonstrates
that the words I utter matter, which of course means that I matter.
underlying message to be gleaned from the Torah’s warnings about tzara’as is
that what we say matters! If a vagabond mulling in the dirt says something
against the king, no one pays him any attention. However, if a high-ranking
minister maligns the king that will have far more severe consequences, because
what he says carries far more weight. The very fact that any individual would
be afflicted with tzara’as even for a comment said in private, demonstrates
that the words I utter matter, which of course means that I matter.
Rabbi Dovid
Orlofsky muses that during the 1950s and 1960s hardly any student was ever
expelled from yeshiva. If a student threw a brick through a window, or shot a
spit ball at a teacher, he might have been severely reprimanded, but he
wouldn’t be kicked out. At that time the feeling was that we needed every student
to rebuild the world destroyed by the Nazis. So many Jews had been murdered,
and so many more were assimilating. No student was dispensable, even if he was
challenging, and required extra effort and attention.
Orlofsky muses that during the 1950s and 1960s hardly any student was ever
expelled from yeshiva. If a student threw a brick through a window, or shot a
spit ball at a teacher, he might have been severely reprimanded, but he
wouldn’t be kicked out. At that time the feeling was that we needed every student
to rebuild the world destroyed by the Nazis. So many Jews had been murdered,
and so many more were assimilating. No student was dispensable, even if he was
challenging, and required extra effort and attention.
Today however, the
attitude has changed. G-d has blessed us with miraculous resilience and our
yeshivos are bursting and can’t extend quickly enough to keep up with the
demand. There is an unverbalized message that difficult student’s sense – “we
don’t need you! We can easily feel your spot with a more conscientious student
who won’t make trouble!”
attitude has changed. G-d has blessed us with miraculous resilience and our
yeshivos are bursting and can’t extend quickly enough to keep up with the
demand. There is an unverbalized message that difficult student’s sense – “we
don’t need you! We can easily feel your spot with a more conscientious student
who won’t make trouble!”
Girls applying for
seminaries often have their self-esteem destroyed, because they know that there
are eight other applicants vying for their spot. The girl may be intelligent
and have wonderful middos, but she doesn’t get in to the school of her choice
because there were other girls who were ‘better’ than she was.
seminaries often have their self-esteem destroyed, because they know that there
are eight other applicants vying for their spot. The girl may be intelligent
and have wonderful middos, but she doesn’t get in to the school of her choice
because there were other girls who were ‘better’ than she was.
This is a very
serious challenge that we must contend with. It is our responsibility to ensure
that every child – and adult – recognizes his value, and that no Jew is
replaceable or dispensable. The Torah relates that our inestimable value is not
in our numbers, but in our intrinsic greatness. “It is not because you are the
most numerous from the nations that G-d desires in you and has chosen you, for
you are the smallest of all the nations”[7].
serious challenge that we must contend with. It is our responsibility to ensure
that every child – and adult – recognizes his value, and that no Jew is
replaceable or dispensable. The Torah relates that our inestimable value is not
in our numbers, but in our intrinsic greatness. “It is not because you are the
most numerous from the nations that G-d desires in you and has chosen you, for
you are the smallest of all the nations”[7].
The renewal of
Nissan is a stark reminder of the value and importance of every single Jew, on
whatever level he or she is on. If a toxic and damaging word of loshon hora
which we utter is so damaging, how much greater is the value of every word of
Torah, prayer, and encouragement that we share.
Nissan is a stark reminder of the value and importance of every single Jew, on
whatever level he or she is on. If a toxic and damaging word of loshon hora
which we utter is so damaging, how much greater is the value of every word of
Torah, prayer, and encouragement that we share.
The recognition of
how special we are is an importance preface to redemption. It helps us to recognize
that G-d loves and values us, and that was why He chose to save us from
bondage, and raised us to become His eternal, chosen people.
how special we are is an importance preface to redemption. It helps us to recognize
that G-d loves and values us, and that was why He chose to save us from
bondage, and raised us to become His eternal, chosen people.
In addition, the
Torah refers to matzah as ‘lechem oni’[8]. The
gemara[9]
offers two explanations of what that means. The first is that oni is similar
to the word ani (poor), in the sense that matzah is ‘poor man’s bread’.
We fulfill this explanation at the Seder during yachatz, when we break the
middle matzah, symbolizing the fact that the poor consume scraps and broken
pieces of bread, not complete loaves.
Torah refers to matzah as ‘lechem oni’[8]. The
gemara[9]
offers two explanations of what that means. The first is that oni is similar
to the word ani (poor), in the sense that matzah is ‘poor man’s bread’.
We fulfill this explanation at the Seder during yachatz, when we break the
middle matzah, symbolizing the fact that the poor consume scraps and broken
pieces of bread, not complete loaves.
The second
explanation is “lechem sheonin alav devorim harbei – bread upon
which many words have been spoken”. We fulfill this explanation by having the
matzah uncovered on the Seder table while the haggadah is recited. We
subsequently eat the matzah over which the haggadah had been recited.
explanation is “lechem sheonin alav devorim harbei – bread upon
which many words have been spoken”. We fulfill this explanation by having the
matzah uncovered on the Seder table while the haggadah is recited. We
subsequently eat the matzah over which the haggadah had been recited.
Parshas Tazria and
Metzora remind us of the value and potency of words. During a leap year[10] that
lesson serves as a perfect introduction to Pesach, the holiday when we learned how
to express ourselves [11],
which was the key and foundation for freedom. The night of the Seder is a time
when the more one tells over the more praiseworthy he is[12]; the
power of words at their best!
Metzora remind us of the value and potency of words. During a leap year[10] that
lesson serves as a perfect introduction to Pesach, the holiday when we learned how
to express ourselves [11],
which was the key and foundation for freedom. The night of the Seder is a time
when the more one tells over the more praiseworthy he is[12]; the
power of words at their best!
“This month shall
be for you, the first of the months.”
be for you, the first of the months.”
“G-d desires in you
and has chosen you”
and has chosen you”
Rabbi Dani Staum,
LMSW
LMSW
Rebbe/Guidance
Counselor – Heichal HaTorah
Counselor – Heichal HaTorah
Principal – Ohr
Naftoli- New Windsor
Naftoli- New Windsor
[1] The
following is the lecture I delivered at Kehillat New Hempstead, Parshas Tazria/Hachodesh
5776, in honor of the bar mitzvah of Tzvi Pesach Kohl
following is the lecture I delivered at Kehillat New Hempstead, Parshas Tazria/Hachodesh
5776, in honor of the bar mitzvah of Tzvi Pesach Kohl
[2] March 2011
[3] Rosh Hashanana
1:1
1:1
[4] Devorim 4:34
[5] The gemara
(Gittin 23b, Chullin 58a) rules that a fetus is considered part of its mother –
“עובר ירך
אמו”
(Gittin 23b, Chullin 58a) rules that a fetus is considered part of its mother –
“עובר ירך
אמו”
[6] Shemos 12:2;
these are the opening words of the special reading for Parshas Hachodesh
these are the opening words of the special reading for Parshas Hachodesh
[7] Devorim 7:7
[11] As
the Arizal famously noted that “Pesach” contains the words “Peh sach – a
soft mouth”. A slave lacks freedom of expression and speech. In Egypt we didn’t
even know how to properly pray. The Torah relates that we groaned and cried out
to G-d. At the time of the exodus we sang shira, a symbol of our newfound
expression and connection.
the Arizal famously noted that “Pesach” contains the words “Peh sach – a
soft mouth”. A slave lacks freedom of expression and speech. In Egypt we didn’t
even know how to properly pray. The Torah relates that we groaned and cried out
to G-d. At the time of the exodus we sang shira, a symbol of our newfound
expression and connection.