PARSHAS VAYECHI 5779

“RABBI’S MUSINGS (&
AMUSINGS)”
Erev Shabbos Kodesh
Parshas Vayechi
Shabbos Chazak!
13 Teves 5779/December 21,
2018
A few years ago, I had the wonderful opportunity to spend a
week in Eretz Yisroel with our bechor, Shalom, in honor of his bar mitzvah. It was
a special trip and we had the zechus to meet a few gedolei Yisroel and enjoy
seeing some of the beauty of the Land.
We spent Shabbos with my sister Ahuva and my brother Yaakov
and his family, both of whom live in the Nachlaot neighborhood of Yerushalayim.
During Shabbos I mentioned to Yaakov that there was a Sefer
called Derashos Bais Yishai, written by Rav Shlomo Fisher, that I wanted to
purchase. The problem was that it was out of print. I was hoping that during my
visit I might possibly be able to meet Rav Fisher, and to purchase his sefer
directly from him. I also noted that Rav Fisher was the brother of Rav Yisroel
Yaakov Fisher zt’l, a renowned halachic posek
My brother answered that not only did he know who Rav Fisher
is, he actually lived only a few doors away. I couldn’t believe the
opportunity! I told my brother I wanted to knock on his door after Shabbos. My
brother replied that although he had seen the Rav walking many times, he had
never knocked on his door. Rav Fisher was a holy, elderly and feeble man and my
brother wasn’t comfortable to simply knock on his door to seek his blessing. I
told my brother that I was only in the country for a few days and I didn’t have
time to think about being uncomfortable.
On Motzei Shabbos, Shalom, Yaakov and I knocked on Rav
Fisher’s door. We were brought inside, where we found the Rav quietly sitting
at his table where he had just completed eating his melave malka.
He gave Shalom a beracha in honor of his bar mitzvah and
allowed me to take a picture of Shalom with him. When I told the Rav that I
wished to purchase his Sefer, Derashos Bais Yishai, he replied that that was
his brother’s Sefer. I realized that this was Rav Eliezer Moshe Fisher, a
different brother of the famed halachic posek.
Rav Fisher’s son was in the apartment assisting his father.
Upon hearing my request, he brought me four sefarim that his father had
authored. They were on topics throughout Shas, and were simply entitled, Sefer
Eliezer Moshe, the name of their author.
Last week I read the sad news that Rav Eliezer Moshe Fisher
passed away at the age of 88.
As I was flipping through one of the sefarim I had purchased
from him, it struck me how ironic it was that I had been willing to knock on
his door when I was there for a week, and my brother had never done so.
For the first eight years of my life, my family lived on the
Lower East Side of Manhattan. I never remember visiting the Statue of Liberty
or Twin Towers during those years. I think that’s fairly common of New Yorkers. 
On the other hand, tourists who visit the city for a week
seem to hit all the popular tourist spots during that time.
It’s one of the sad realities of life – we often fail to take
advantage of the things closest to us. The things we can do any time often
become the things we don’t do at any time.
Conversely, when one knows he has limited time, he will pack
in as much as he can during that time.
Residents of Yerushalayim may not visit the kosel for months,
while those of us who have the opportunity to visit from chutz la’aretz will
make sure to daven there numerous times.
More significantly, it was a stark reminder to me of our
nature to fail to appreciate the little gifts of life, which aren’t little at
all – primarily the gifts of our close friends and family.
Our children had the zechus during Chanukah to enjoy time
with all four of their grandparents – something I would give anything to be
able to do – and some of their uncles, aunts, and cousins. And I had the zechus
to spend time with my parents and in-laws, in good health and a pleasant
atmosphere.
I have a friend who often quips that we would be wise to
daven that Hashem help us appreciate the gifts He grants us every day while we
have them.
This Shabbos, our community is paying
tribute to Team Shabbos, a division of the National Association of Chevra
Kadisha. It is an organization dedicated to raising and promoting awareness of
end of life matters according to Halacha.
Aside for the tremendous importance of the
organization and what they offer our community, reflecting on their work helps
us remember to appreciate the gift of life and those around us.
I feel fortunate to have the sefarim of Rav Eliezer Moshe
Fisher zt’l for their Torah insights and for the opportunity to maintain a
connection with the late scholar. Beyond that, seeing his sefarim also gives me
the satisfaction of knowing that at least on that occasion I took advantage of
an opportunity and appreciated the moment.
I should add that I am still searching for the Sefer,
Derashos Bais Yishai of Rav Shlomo Fisher shlita, which is out of print. If you
find one, please let me know. (And no, it’s not yet on 
hebrewbooks.org).
Good Shabbos & Shabbat Shalom,
R’ Dani and Chani Staum  

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